You’re going to need your sense of humor so that all the planning doesn’t get the best of you.
Some films to help with this are: Bridesmaids, My Best Friend’s Wedding, or My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
All pretty great in their own way and guaranteed to put a smile on your face.
Remember, don’t take things too seriously.
It’s better if planning is relaxed while still fun, than meticulously organized, but a dread.
Now, a lot of people recommend to NOT choose music that makes you cry with the hope of not ruining your makeup.
I say to hell with this rule. Weddings are super emotional by nature, as they should be.
If your special song makes you both cry, so be it. It’s more important to play a song that’s meaningful to you both than a song that doesn’t do much for you in order to keep a few tears at bay.
If you feel like crying, cry. No need to hold back. As the song goes, “It’s my party, and I’ll cry if I want to!”
Select your pre-wedding girlfriends with care.
It’s nice to have support from a group of gals the night before.
They should be positive, uplifting, and easy going people.
If a friend is prone to attracting drama, it’s ok to politely avoid her until after the knot is tied.
It’s not your job to stress out about how certain groups will mingle.
EX: Your buddies from high school and work friends.
They’re all adults and if someone isn’t having a good time at a celebration, that’s not your problem to resolve.
While 50 shades of exotic moves does sound like an……interesting time…..don’t feel like it’s a must on your wedding night.
It’s highly likely that you’ll feel exhausted. It’s a long day and you’ll be tempted to cuddle into bed and knock out, which is totally ok.
You have the rest of your lives to get freaky.
A great honeymoon usually involves lots of amazing food and wine.
Yes, you’ll probably want to look great for photos, but c’mon, it’s your honeymoon. It’s meant to be fun and playful.
With that said, don’t just pack your suitcase with uncomfortable, but glamorous outfits. Plan for delicious food and drink, adventure and frollicking, etc.
The wedding day takes months to plan, yet goes by in a flash. During your day, try to relax and remember to soak in every moment.
When your mind starts wandering, here are some tips to help bring you back to the present moment:
1. Focus on your breath or a part of your body. It will help to shift your focus from whatever is going on in your mind to the NOW.
2. Take in all the good and think of something that you are grateful. Being in a state of gratitude will put you in a high vibe state and ward off any anxiety or stress.
Your shoes. I know many will disagree with me on this one, but I say comfort over all else.
But then again, I would live in my birkenstocks if I could, so my opinion is debatable…haha.
If you are going to go for glam over comfort, please make sure to at least break them in.
Walk in them for an hour or two a couple times a week, so that when the day comes, you’re not wincing in pain.
Also, I ALWAYS recommend having two pairs for the day. The glam and the comfy.
Once the ceremony is over and the pictures are taken, feel free to ditch the heels for some good ol’ comfort!
Ask the caterer to pack two meals (including cake) for you both to eat later.
Things can get hectic and this will ensure that you actually took some time to enjoy the meal you picked out.
Go to your honeymoon immediately after.
I know this can get tricky with work, kids, or school, but if you can avoid waiting to take the trip, please do.
After the craziness of the wedding, all you’ll want to do is relax and enjoy life for a bit.
Also, your coworkers will be more likely to respect your time away.
Otherwise, while you may see it as a delayed honeymoon, they’ll probably just see it as a trip.
Hope these tips help!